i was reading all my old posts, and i came across one which is my answer to a qn asked thru my qn box. i think i want to repost it again as i think it'll be useful to those who have not read it b4, but has the same problem:

Q: What do you do when this person betrays you, and that because you're so forgiving and that you love the person as a friend, you always try to be friends with the person again? Yet scared cos the person might betray you again?

A: I would stop and think, is this person i call my friend really my friend? What IS friend? A friend does not betray you. But sometimes, when you quarrel or giving silent treatments to your friend, it's only because of a misunderstanding. A misunderstanding which you both are sometimes too embarrassed to confront each other about. The tension during a quarrel usually worsens. So we do need to confront your peers, talk things out, and get the facts straight-so you can remain friends and have a stronger trust in each other.

Don't try too hard to get her back. It can sometimes be annoying and alas, you feel more hurt. Instead, try to mix with other friends (make new friends or join a clique, that is) act as if nothing happened between you and your friend. Even though you know there's tension between you and your friend, just say hi or at least smile to her whenever you see her around (in the corridors or something), but try not to do that in the classroom. Do not bother if she returns you a glare or an eye-rolling. Just keep being friendly to her. (But pls, don't act desperate. You are being friendly to her cuz you are treating her like a classmate.) Then, soon, that friend of yours will ask herself, why the heck did i start quarrelling with you? And since it seemed that the quarrel did not have any effect on you, that friend of yours will realise that the quarrel is such a waste of time, and she'll start talking to you again.

But don't just jump into being her best friend again. Take things slow. :)